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Now Stop Worrying and Start Studying, College Girl!
Dear Lucy,
I have the perfect relationship. Well I did until we went to college at different ends of the country. We broke up to explore in college. It was really hard at first, its getting easier. But I still completely love him. I have been exploring a little but the only boy I would ever want in my bed is my ex. We were each others firsts. I love him so much, but I am afraid that either I will never get over him and never be able to love anyone else. Or that I will lose him. What should I do?
This sounds almost exactly like my own college experience. When I went to school in California, and my first boyfriend, Jeff, went to New York, we decided to tough it out and stay together the first year. This involved many long distance phone cards (I didn’t get a cell phone til sophomore year!), lots of listening to Radiohead in the dark and crying, and the purchase of my first vibrator. I was so in love in Jeff, I couldn’t see myself with anyone else, he was my first! Sound familiar?
So what happened? Well, I had another first: my first drunken one night stand. This prompted me to discuss the possibility of Jeff and I “exploring” on our respective campuses. He was into it, and we both messed around with a few people, while still being in love and in regular communication with each other. We officially broke up at the beginning of sophomore year. It was really hard, but it was a really good idea.
Long distance relationships are extremely difficult. Why do two people get into a relationship in the first place? Usually because they enjoy spending time with that special someone. So when you don’t actually get to physically be with your someone, what makes you stay together? Are you satisfied with only seeing them a couple times a year? That means that for the majority of the year, you’re lonely, sexually unfulfilled, and sad. And let’s not even get into the communication aspect of it. The amount of silly fights one can get into over instant messenger… oy vey. No, you cannot tell what the other person’s tone of voice is suggesting, because you can’t hear their goddamn voice!
But let’s get back to that big question: why stay in a long distance relationship? Probably because you’re scared. You’re scared that no one will love you again like that first love. Then you’ll never feel comfortable enough to have sex with someone new. So here’s the good news: you totally totally will. I guarantee it!
Of course, I don’t know you, dear reader, but I do know the feelings you’re having because I’ve been there. Jeff still holds a special little corner of my heart, but I am a completely different person than my 18-year-old self, and the thought of dating Jeff at this point is laughable. I think it was a wise move to break up with your bf. It’s totally OK to be in love with your ex for a good while, and to still explore with other boys (and girls! It’s college!). The heartache will start to ease as you find your place in your new community, and you just may find someone to replace that loneliness, too.
Xoxo,
Lucy
Back when we launched two of Tumblr’s most unique features, reblogging and the Tumblr Bookmarklet, we devised automatic “via” links in post captions as a simple solution for attribution. Three years later, this solution has gotten us pretty far. But it’s easy to spot some real shortcomings:
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Tumblr Tuesday, Fashion Week Edition
New York City, September 9-16, 2010Fashionistas in extremely dangerous high heels are literally tripping all over the city as New York Fashion Week currently hits its, uh, stride. This glorious event happens twice every year and brings the world’s finest and most cutting-edge designers together to display their latest creations. What follows are some Tumblr blogs celebrating the haute couture, the prêt-à-porter, and the falling models.
Fashion Week Live from MAC & Milk invites everyone to participate in this live cell phone project called “Phone Tag” to promote all of the week’s events.
Sara Zucker is an independent fashion blogger who works in marketing and is covering Fashion Week from inside the shows.
What I Wore is Jessica Quirk’s personal style blog. She takes pictures of herself nearly every day and loves vintage inspired clothes.
DesignerSocial is a crew of designers, editors, and fashion peeps who throw down on the industry and each other.
LB TUMBLR is the official Tumblr blog for Lookbook.nu, an international social experiment in style.
Visit the Fashion category of the Tumblr Directory to find many, many more!
Photos via Styleite.
Marc LaFountain
Community Director
Richmond, VirginiaMarc gets email. A lot of email.
As Community Director, Marc manages Tumblr’s entire support infrastructure. From tackling general community issues to solving technical support requests, he’s personally read and responded to thousands upon thousands of email messages regarding browser cookies, forgotten passwords, and more.
Yet, Marc wants to emphasize that he is, in fact, an actual human being. You see, a common misconception he encounters is that he’s a fake persona we created to make Support more personable. Emails addressed to “Whoever Really Reads This” and “Marc, Yeah Right” are a surprisingly regular occurrence.
But after a rigorous interrogation and full-body scan, we can attest to him being a real human who is pleased to help with any of your Tumblr needs.
“One of the nice things about support work is the immediacy of the results. Someone couldn’t log into Tumblr and now they can. Someone wasn’t sure how to do something, and now they know,” he says.
As for the future, Marc is orchestrating the expansion of Tumblr’s Support team to better serve our community as it grows over the coming months and years. We just passed 100k total customer service requests in our internal support system today. Here’s to 200k!
Personal data
He has a lovely wife named Francisca and two sometimes-lovely cats named Zora and Gracie.Favorite support email
“How harmful is it swallow a small amount of nail polish remover?”Fun fact
Marc was Tumblr’s third employee, hired after two emails and a phone call insisting he could respond to support emails faster than David. He was right.
Hey readers, I’ve been getting a ton of questions from people who are new to sex, asking for advice about their “first time” and various associated details. So, I’ve decided that this coming week, all my writing will be devoted to my virginal readers: Virgin Week.
Only thing is, I’m having…
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